Nobody Told Me Christian Motherhood Would Feel This Lonely

I remember the moment I realised I was raising my children in a world that no longer shared my values.

My oldest, she was about ten at the time, came home from a friend’s place and said something that stopped me cold. Something she’d heard that directly contradicted what we’d been teaching her from Scripture. She wasn’t questioning it. She was just… repeating it. Like it was normal. Like it was obvious.

And I sat there thinking: this is only going to get harder.

Hi. I’m Tabitha. And I’m in it with you.

Before I get into the meat of this post, I want to tell you who I am, because I think context matters, especially when you’re reading someone’s opinion on something as personal as how you raise your children.

I’m a mum of six. Two teenagers, a tween, an eight-year-old, a five-year-old, and a toddler who has decided she runs the house and honestly, we’re all just going along with it. We homeschool. We’re a Christian family. And not long ago, I left my job again to be home full-time and build something from here.

I’m not a theologian. I’m not a parenting expert. I’m a woman who prays hard, makes mistakes, and is genuinely trying to raise children who know God… in a world that is slowly, steadily drifting away from everything that means.

This blog Digital She Wrote is where I write honestly about all of it. If you’re looking for curated advice from someone who has it together, you’re in the wrong place. But if you want real conversation from someone living the same reality you are, pull up a chair.

Why Christian Motherhood Is Genuinely Harder Now

I don’t say this to be dramatic. I say it because it’s true, and I think we need to name it before we can deal with it.

The world your child is growing up in is not neutral.

It used to be that you could send your child to school, let them watch television, let them play in the neighbourhood… and while the world wasn’t perfectly aligned with your faith, it wasn’t actively pushing against it either. There was a general shared understanding of right and wrong. Of what family looked like. Of what children were meant to be protected from.

That’s gone now. Or going, at least.

The content that reaches your child through a screen (even with the best parental controls) carries a worldview. Social media carries a worldview. The books sent home from school carry a worldview. And more often than not, it’s not ours.

You’re not being paranoid. The pressure is real.

I’ve spoken to so many Christian mums who feel it, this low-level hum of anxiety that something is quietly working against the home they’re trying to build. And then they feel guilty for feeling it, because it sounds suspicious or fearful or like they’re raising their children in a bubble.

But there’s a difference between sheltering your children from life, and being intentional about what you let shape them. We know that. We just sometimes need permission to say it out loud.

It’s also lonely in a way that’s hard to explain.

When your values are countercultural, you often can’t talk about them freely, even with other mothers. You edit yourself at school pickup. You word things carefully in the group chat. You laugh along with things that don’t sit right because you don’t want to be that person.

And slowly, quietly, you can start to feel like you’re doing this alone.

Three Things I Hold Onto

I’m not going to wrap this up with a tidy list of solutions, this is a real and ongoing challenge, and I’d be doing you a disservice if I pretended otherwise. But here’s what I come back to on the hard days.

Faith in the home is more powerful than the world outside it. The research backs this up, but honestly, Scripture had it first. Deuteronomy 6, tells parents to talk about God’s commands when they sit at home, when they walk along the road, when they lie down, when they get up. The antidote to a noisy world has always been a faithful home. Not a loud one. Not a perfect one. A consistent one.

Your children are watching you more than they’re listening to you. When they see you open your Bible on a Tuesday morning not because it’s Sunday and you’re supposed to, but because you actually need it, that registers. When they hear you pray about something that worried you and then see you trust God with it, that registers. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to be real.

You’re not failing because it’s hard. I want to say this directly because I think a lot of us carry this guilt that somehow, if we were better mothers or stronger in our faith, this wouldn’t feel so difficult. That’s a lie. It’s hard because the world is pulling in a different direction, not because you’re doing something wrong. You showing up, day after day, praying, reading, talking about God at the dinner table…that is not failure. That is faithfulness Deuteronomy 6 talks about.

Why I Started This Blog

I started Digital She Wrote because I needed a space to say the things I was editing out of other conversations.

I needed to talk honestly about what it feels like to raise children in faith when the world feels like it’s leaning the other way. To share the tools that have actually helped our family — the resources, the rhythms, the small practices that make a difference when you’re tired and stretched and wondering if you’re doing enough.

And I wanted to find other women doing the same thing. Because this is easier when you’re not alone.

If that sounds like something you need too… you’re in the right place.

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Written by Tabitha | Digital She Wrote — honest conversations for the Christian woman doing it all.